I don’t see how it’s dysfunctional at all. Call it brotherly love and nothing’s wrong with what we’re doing.
No, our parents don’t know. My mother isn’t comfortable with me being openly gay, my father’s okay with it but I can’t really tell him because he’ll tell her and it’ll just get messy and weird.
One of my ex boyfriends knows about it, however, rather than finding it weird it turned out to be a fetish of his and tried to use that to his advantage. Unluckily for him, my feelings and physical relationship with my brother aren’t purposed for fetishism. It’s not a novelty kind of thing, it’s something very real and it sucked for someone I cared about to come in and try and use it to his benefit.
Another great post from inlovewithmybrother. He’s absolutely correct: There is nothing dysfunctional about brothers experiencing love for each other. If anything is dysfunctional, it’s our society for creating nonsensical barriers that prevent people from expressing themselves sexually when they know in their hearts it’s what they want. If they do it out of love or even just horny lust, then so what?
The comment about the ex-boyfriend is interesting too. A lot of gay men have a fetish for incest, and I’ve found my blog added by a lot of “pig perv taboo fetish” types for whom incest is grouped together with their interests in eating shit, doing meth and barebacking. But for most of us who have experienced this, it’s not a fetish or a morbid fascination - it’s a real expression of love. I don’t want male incest to be taboo or fetishized - I want it to be accepted as a harmless expression of love and male bonding because that’s what it is.